Loss Grief, Bereavement, Death Trauma, Retirement Counselling

Everyone experiences and expresses grief in their own way, often shaped by how their culture honours the process or not. It is not uncommon for a person to withdraw from their friends and family and feel helpless, some might be angry and want to take action.

Grief is a complicated emotional experience. Loss is what happens, grief is how people feel as a result. Sometimes grief is powerful and complex, other times it is not at all hard to get through. However, all losses, even the little ones, generate feelings. The bigger the loss, the more complicated the feelings.

Kind of losses

It is impossible to list all of the kinds of loss events because there are so many. Here are some examples:
Death of a loved one, divorce, redundancy, sexual, physical or emotional abuse, gaining weight, losing a favourite object or pet, ageing, shifting house, loss of health.

Effects of Loss

One can expect a wide range of emotion and behaviour. It is perfectly normal to have some or all of the following feelings when experiencing loss:

Disappointment, resentment, fear, loneliness, confusion, sadness, fatigue, anger, relief, wild laughter, embarrassment, guilt worry, disappointment, helplessness, apathy, loneliness, denial, anxiety, rage, inadequacy, yearning, isolation, confusion, numbness, envy, abandonment, rejection, betrayal, helplessness apathy, panic, low self-esteem.

Often people feel disorganized, tired, have trouble concentrating, sleep poorly and have vivid dreams, or change in appetite.

For some the effects of loss are enduring or disabling.

How Counselling can help

Grief counselling helps in thinking creatively about the challenges that follow loss, and coping with concurrent changes in their lives. As well as focusing on the emotional response to loss, there are also physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophical dimensions that may emerge.

Grief counselling also helps when a person becomes disabled by their grief, overwhelmed by loss to the extent that their normal coping processes are disabled or shut down. For example, where an adult is periodically immobilised by unwelcome and intrusive recall of the sudden and violent death of a parent in their childhood.

At the Durham Centre you will find mature and well qualified professionals who have had many years of experience in dealing specifically with loss and grief. Feel free to call our receptionist on 03 365 7776 to arrange an appointment. You might also like to read about each of us on this website.


The cost of therapies varies in part depending on the source of funding. When you call our receptionist you will be able to discuss options that may be available to you, such as through ACC, WINZ or several employee assistance programmes such as OCP, EAP, Stratos or Instep.